There's no need to change what you are. Just own the space you stand in.

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Being around people shouldn’t require a degree in psychology. But here you are - intelligent, competent, successful… and still finding yourself blindsided by behaviour that just doesn't make sense: The silences, manipulation, power-play, and dick-swinging drama that shouldn't have to be part of your bloody remit.​

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The Frustration​

Most coaching speaks to you as a singular entity, separate from the chaotic, messy, unpredictable world you inhabit. It suggests that if you tweak your mindset enough, you’ll slot into some pre-greased groove the universe has had prepared for you all your life. The truth is, you don’t live in a vacuum. You show up as part of a tribe - a group with their own rules, rhythms, and codes. And that means you're navigating:

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• Shifting alliances

• Hidden motives and vested interests

• People who guard their status like a wounded animal

• People who either fold under pressure, or escalate conflict

• And those who demand you stay small while they act without consequence

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No wonder you’re exhausted - you're trying to handle chaos with tools meant for comfort, not clarity.

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The Truth

Mindset won’t save you. Nor will motivation. And no amount of therapy will help you deal with someone trying to play you like an old banjo. Until you understand the dynamics around you, clarity is impossible.

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Why You Haven’t Been Able to Change

Real change doesn't come via a bolt from heaven. It’s a staged process - uncomfortable and deliberate - one most people never start, let alone finish. It takes time, pressure, and honesty... and in the age of the next new thing, it’s a reassuringly well-trodden path - the work is the same now as it's been for centuries. 

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The Framework Behind the Work

​​​​​​​Late in life, Carl Jung wrote extensively about the ancient practice of alchemy. He suggested it had never been about turning lead into gold, but codifying an encrypted psychological canon. He believed that, far from being mystics; the alchemists understood human psychology long before we had language for it.​​​​

 

That’s the territory my work occupies. It doesn’t turn you into a better version of yourself. It helps you to strip away artifice and work your way back to who you really are. Someone more coherent. Someone who owns the space they stand in. Someone who can stand in any room without effort or performance.

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